As a Marriage & Family Therapist and a Licensed Professional Counselor, I have extensive experience helping couples, individuals and children change destructive behavior, build solid relationships, and achieve happy, fulfilling lives.
My formal education consists of a Masters Degree in Marriage & Family Therapy and a Masters Degree in Cross Cultural Studies from Fuller Graduate School of Psychology in Pasadena, California, USA.
What sets me apart from other counselors is my ability to keep clients on a systematic approach to change. I have put together an intensive, short term program to help them achieve results quickly, even after 2-3 visits.
I conduct Marriage & Family Therapy that is brief, solution-focused, short term therapy with specific goals in mind.
My goal is to help clients see changes quickly and experience a happier relationship right now, not months from now.
We look at what each partner brings to the relationship today, rather than rehashing old fights of the past.
I help clients become self aware so each partner can take control of his/her part of the relationship, rather than try to change the other person, which never works.
Our sessions together are structured: You are guided step-by-step with the aid of videos, personality tests, role plays, homework assignments and other tools.
The end result is more self awareness, stronger listening and communication skills, a better knowledge of how to get your needs met, a better understanding of how culture, personality and gender differences impact your relationship, and the ability to create more fun, affection and physical intimacy in your relationship.
I felt very comfortable talking to Dr. Rudinsky. She is a great listener, understanding, always gave me great advice and always followed up.. I still seek her help with a lot of issues I am facing and I will never hesitate to ask for her help and counselling.. I cannot thank her enough for helping me..
Before couple’s counseling, my husband and I were having huge fights on a weekly basis, at least. We knew that our marriage was in trouble but didn’t know how to fix it. Helen’s couples counseling program helped us develop the skills we needed to build a stronger, more open relationship. The program is structured like a workshop, so it will require real effort on your part, but the results are worth it. Every week we were given exercises to better understand ourselves, each other, and develop critical interpersonal and communication skills. Personally, the most helpful parts were learning conflict resolution skills, how to identify harmful patterns, and how to put up healthy boundaries. Within weeks, our fighting decreased dramatically in intensity and frequency. We were also having more open discussions, actually solving our problems together, and enjoying our free time and each other’s company more. I even found the skills she taught to be just as effective with coworkers and family members, leading to healthier relationships overall. Helen was always flexible in scheduling appointments and how she counseled us. We were actually located far away from her practice, but she was accommodating when it came to the distance and our work schedules, conducting evening sessions via Skype when it was most convenient for us. I also felt that she was flexible in how she dealt with patients and her level of firmness always seemed appropriate and was exactly what I needed at the time. Helen always says that she doesn’t want you to rehash the argument in a session, so don’t expect someone who will listen to you regurgitate old fights. Instead she’ll help you to get to the root of the arguments, by giving you and your partner the tools to solve your own problems through better communication and understanding. We now have a better understanding of ourselves, each other, and how to communicate, and continue to use the techniques long after the workshop has ended. Sometimes I think this was as much “Being a Healthy Person” counseling as marital counseling.
First Session—What to Expect
Sometimes people are nervous about their first counseling session. That is normal, but my goal is to put you at ease from the start.
Individuals and Children
We will discuss the reason you came for therapy. Children are often asked to draw a picture of their family and house.
To insure that couples sessions are a safe and nurturing place for both partners, the Code of Conduct of specific behavior is required. Each partner is asked to treat the other respectfully. Arguing is not allowed. Instead, we look at why you are arguing in the first place.
The session is a time to learn new ways to clearly communicate your concerns in a way that empowers you to get your needs met. Abusive behavior such as insulting, criticizing or blaming your partner is not allowed. Each partner is helped to learn healthy ways of speaking using “I” statements.
Couples will be asked to fill out short questionnaires and watch a 12 minute video to evaluate the strengths and weaknesses of their relationship to help them decide what their next step should be.
The rest of the session will be spent looking at various options for treatment going forward and the goals desired to be achieved. Each person will be given an idea of the treatment plan and can decide if that is what he/she is looking for at this time. Each person will have the option of committing to a treatment plan, coming back for just a few sessions, or not coming back at all.
Notebook and Folder
Clients are asked to bring a folder to organize forms and handouts, and a notebook for note taking and recording homework assignments