It is our goal to help couples build a strong foundation for communication and honesty; define realistic expectations and boundaries; restore integrity and trust to the institution of marriage; and promote healthy marriages by creating an environment in which couples (both preparing for marriage and married) will have access to tools, techniques, and information that will enable them to make decisions that will foster a growing, loving, life-long marriage.
On many of those occasions I found myself doing research before having follow-up conversations to help family and friends address their cares. It was those initial breakthroughs that fueled my present desire to help people, in particular, in their desire for a happy and successful marriage.
Abbey My family has always had Pre-Marital Counseling and I am 100% an advocate of it. I feel it is a necessity that sit down with your soon to be life partner and discuss your future. I mean if you are going to spend the rest of your life with this person shouldn’t you start off on the right foot and discuss how you both feel about certain aspects of your life such as finances, kids, and what you want out of life. A lot of people do not realize your thoughts on how you want your life to be may be completely different than you partners and a lot of people do not realize this until they have been married for a couple of years. And that is how problems start and even ruin marriages. I feel PMC is a 100% and recommend it to every couple who plans on getting married!
I was raised in a fairly large Spanish family which from my knowledge and asking found it very interesting that none of our families had ever had Pre-Marital Counseling (PMC). It was something that we never did or considered. When my wife brought it up honestly I felt like something was going wrong and I kind of had a negative view on it. After going back and forth with her about it I agreed to do it just to make her happy. It was one of the smartest decisions I have made as an adult. We discussed many different scenarios that would be coming up in our life in the near future that I would have never thought of discussing before getting married. I had different views and beliefs on such things as managing money to simple things such as how many kids we want to have. I am very thankful I did the PMC because it helped to solve some issues we had going into our marriage that honestly could have been huge issues if we would have waited until they arose. I have very thankful we could have these discussions before getting married and possibly ruining our marriage because we were both very far apart on where we stood on many aspects of life.
I don’t think that there was any doubt in our minds whether or not we would sign up for Pre-Marital Counseling (PMC) as we both understood the importance of laying a foundation for our marriage. Our PMC classes have been invaluable to us. The process taught us about ourselves, our relationship and how to allow God to be the center of our marriage. PMC has helped us to love and accept my each other for who we are as individuals. It has also helped us to rid ourselves of preconceived notions/expectations associated with marriage and build on what we have to offer as husband and wife. Personally, PMC has helped me to look inward rather than outward when trouble arises in our marriage; it is so easy to place blame on your mate rather than looking at areas within ourselves that need work. I would strongly suggest to anyone considering PMC to sign up-you have more to gain than lose from the experience.
have always been a proponent of Pre-Marital Counseling (PMC) as a requirement for marriage. That belief stemmed from being the son of a preacher and watching my dad preside over hundreds of weddings so I knew that I was going to do it once I made the decision to get married. Our church offered a group PMC which we participated in and then we did one specifically for my wife and I. The church PMC was good, but I found that the individual PMC sessions had the greatest benefits. The reason being was that the individual PMC gave us a compatibility test, a workbook about marriage and questions about our potential spouse, as well as a counselor that provided a spiritual and pragmatic perspective. It was good that we did have this session because it brought out several unresolved issues that forced us to address whether we should move forward with the marriage. After several discussions we decided to postpone the marriage until we determined whether or not we could resolve these issues completely or at minimum to a point that would make our marriage a success. Not only were there issues about each other that needed to be resolved, but I also had to accept my own faults which I would need to address regardless of who I was marrying. The individual PMC session also revealed to me why my wife had some of the beliefs that she did and why she responded the way that she did in certain situations. Ultimately, I thought we both benefited from having an open and honest conversation about our expectations, past experiences with each other, and goals that we wanted to establish for our family. I would strongly recommend and encourage anyone who is considering marriage to take full advantage of PMC. Additionally, I would go a step further and say that you should do it if you think you might want to move in that direction before you get engaged.
In our efforts to help build strong marriages and reduce the high incidents of divorce, in addition to coulseling session where we work through the areas of concern in you lives, The Marriage Gene also uses #1 relationship assessment tool, PREPARE/ENRICH to assess your relationship.
PREPARE/ENRICH is the leading relationship inventory and couples assessment tool. Scientifically validated as a foundational program for premarital counseling, marriage enrichment, couples therapy, marriage mentoring and marriage education. PREPARE/ENRICH automatically tailors the content of the relationship assessment to fit each couple’s unique relationship stage and family structure
I am an ordained Christain Minister and have been providing Christain Counseling Services to couples since 2003. I am also Clinically trained and hold a Master’s Degree in Community Counseling with specialization in Marriage and Family Therapy. In my studies I studied counseling techniques that are not only utilized in counseling for couples, individuals, groups, but also for addiction and other mental health counseling needs. As an ordained Christian minister I can, when appropriate, combine clinical techniques and theory with Biblical teachings for clients whose beliefs play an important role in their life, living, relationship, and recovery.