Infidelity Counseling | Affair Recovery | Discernment (CA; Online Only)

At a crossroads in your relationship, will you use this crisis as a wake-up call—or stay stuck in the same painful cycle? As a CA licensed therapist and coach, I guide individuals and couples through high-stakes relationship moments (especially betrayal/infidelity and brink-of-divorce decisions) and help you turn pain into clarity, growth, and more conscious connection.

What Sets Me Apart

I combine depth therapy with a forward-focused coaching pace: we slow things down enough to tell the truth, then build structure so the work changes real life. If privacy matters, Zoom allows you to do this work discreetly—without being seen in a waiting room. I’m direct and structured; I don’t minimize the injury and I don’t stop at the injury.

My Specialties Include

*Infidelity / affair discovery crisis: stabilization, truth/shared reality, and trust rebuilding.

*Structured disclosure & repair process: accountability, transparency, and repair that lands.

*Discernment counseling (stay or separate): time-limited clarity on the brink.

*High-conflict cycles: escalation/shutdown, pursue/withdraw, resentment loops.

*Attachment injuries & toxic bonding: interrupt patterns and build secure connection.

*Relationships impacted by narcissistic/borderline traits (patterns): boundaries, steadiness, self-respect.

*Interracial / cross-cultural couples: culture + communication.

My Approach

I use an integrated, evidence-based approach (therapy + coaching) to help each partner identify and interrupt unhealthy relational patterns. We go beneath surface conflict to uncover unconscious core beliefs formed early—often distorted conclusions about self, others, and safety that get replayed in adult rupture. As those beliefs shift, each partner develops a truer self-identity and stronger self-leadership.

Modalities I draw from include: Core Values work (CVRT), Transactional Analysis (Parent/Adult/Child ego states and how these dynamics play out in relationships), Relational Life Therapy (RLT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), Attachment-based work, psychodynamic insight, and differentiation (Schnarch/Crucible).

Who I Work With

*Couples after infidelity/affair discovery who need structure and stabilization.

*Couples still stuck months/years later who want closure, deeper understanding, and a path forward.

*Couples on the brink who need discernment and a clear decision process.

*Individuals impacted by betrayal, shame, resentment, or repeating patterns.

Best Fit For

*High-commitment clients who are coachable, receptive to direct feedback, and willing to practice between sessions—even when it’s uncomfortable.

*If you want structure (not endless processing) and measurable progress, we’ll work well together in real life.

Why Work With Me?

We use triggers as information, translate insight into behavior, and build a more conscious relationship: clearer boundaries, reliable transparency, and repair instead of reenactment. The goal is clarity with integrity—repair and rebuild, or separate with dignity.

Format & Fees

*All sessions are via Zoom.

*We begin with a consultation to assess fit and map next steps:

*60-min individual consultation session: $250

*60-min couples consultation session: $300

*If we proceed, I recommend a time-limited, outcome-based plan (structured rounds, extended sessions, or multi-day blocks) and provide the total investment after the consultation.