R. McCann Partlow, MA, LMHC

R. McCann Partlow, MA, LMHC

1 employee
28 years in business

About this pro

My own personal history in a twenty-three year relationship as well as thirty years working with a wide range of couples has given me a broad and deeply rooted perspective on relationships. While I am still open to be surprised, there is probably no type or dynamic of relationship I have not encountered. Most couples come in with at least two issues almost always present. They are usually; poor communication and poor intimacy. It's hard being a couple today. We all tend to live extremely busy lives with obligations and responsibilities that pull us in a million directions.

It's all too easy for relationships to settle into patterns; some healthy, some not so much. The universal dangers are that partners begin to take the relationship for granted and stop putting effort into the process. The other danger is that the unaddressed accumulated "baggage" of the relationship becomes so great that the couple stops listening to each other and reduce each other to a series of arbitrary assumptions. Lastly, couples can fall into the trap that the approaches they try as solutions actually only reinforce each other's undesirable behavior.

As an addict & alcoholicI deeply value my experience as a recovering addict and alcoholic with twenty-two years sobriety and the recovery lifestyle that keeps me so. On the other hand, I am also very careful not to assume that addiction plays a role with each individual or couple I work with. I use an objective criterion to see if the issue is pertinent or not. If an individual or couple is concerned with addiction I am careful to assess if the problem meets a symptomatic or addictive criteria.

I am passionate about working with individuals and couples on relationship issues and addictions like alcohol abuse or pornography as well as sexual addictions. I am dedicated to some real fundamentals of the human experience like our need for good social and emotional skills as well as subtleties like sexuality and human intimacy issues.

A lot of times stress, anxiety and depression are actually the underlying symptoms to these issues.

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Seattle, WA 98104
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What is your typical process for working with a new customer?

Some standard work with virtually all clients is

Clean up any errors in mentation/cognitive distortions

Psychoeducation in Emotional Intelligence and Social Intelligence

Internalized self concept versus externalized self concept.

Counterdependency v Interdependency v Codependency

What education and/or training do you have that relates to your work?

First Masters in Counseling emphasized applied behavioral sciences

Second Master in Counseling emphasized pastoral counseling/spirituality and religious abuse

Extensive certifications in addictions as well as personal experience as an addict/alcholic in active recovery.

Do you have a standard pricing system for your services? If so, please share the details here.

I am in network for all insurances including medicare based insurances and tricare.

How did you get started in this business?

I was co-spoused as a child which makes you an instant therapist. I was also in religious life for four years and sought to incorporate, when appropriate, my love of world spirituality.

What types of customers have you worked with?

As an addict/alcholic working with folks around addictions from alcohol, drug (illicit and prescription) and behavioral addictions including gambling, cyberporn and sex addictions.

Describe a recent event you are fond of.

I love the Saturday night before Christmas tradition of ringing Greenlake with hundreds of small paper bags with sand in the bottom and a lit votive candle. Also the August OBon (rememberance of the dead) when dozens of lit floating lanterns are pushed out to Greenlake at dusk.

What advice would you give a customer looking to hire a company in your area of expertise?

Above anything else - a therapist best practice of being in therapy themselves.

In addition, that they have a clinical supervisor that they periodically review redacted case notes and work.

What questions should customers think through before talking to companies about their needs?

What do they want out of therapy

What are the willing to risk in terms of perspectives and behaviors - our lives only change to the extent that we are willing to risk change.