Insight

Usually I will do a short phone interview with a new client to be sure we are a good fit for each other. The interview lasts about 15 minutes. After that, if I feel I can be helpful in their progresssion, we set an appointment to meet either in person (if local) or over the phone, FaceTime, Skype, etc. 

I have been coaching relationships (personal and professional) for more than 20 years. Nine years ago I started my own company. I have worked with special needs families (mostly Autism Spectrum), strained personal relationships between spouses or parents and children, workplace hostility, as a communication coach, and as a career change coach. Each of my clients have said the same thing: namely, if they are diligent about implementing the suggestions I give them, 100% of the time their life improves and changes for the better. Their relationships heal. Their work becomes more meaningful and enjoyable. They become better spouses, better parents, better children, better friends, better coworkers, better bosses. 

I charge $125 for a session. A session lasts anywhere from 1-2 hours. If we go over 2 hours then there will be additional fees. If we do not need a full hour, the fee is discounted. Sessions are paid for in advance, when scheduling and cancelation refunds are given on a case by case basis. There are no refunds given if cancelation is less than 24 hours before the appointment. 

Everyone I knew told me I should be paid for my advice because it was always sound and wise. So I started letting people pay me rather than offering it for free. The amazing thing is, they took those Insights more seriously when they were paying for them and had an even greater success in their lives. 

Job changes 

Marriage struggles

Communication in family relationships 

Child raising

Adult child-parent relationships

People who have lost themselves 

Fertility emotional struggles

Faith crisis

Emotional recovery from trauma

Emotional/Physical/Sexual abuse victims

Grief and loss

Special needs family dynamics

Friendship relationships

Office dynamics

Communication in the workplace

I am a recent convert to baseball. My best friend finally convinced me it was a good sport. We were talking one day about the game and I was telling her how selfish all sports are and that I don’t like them. She replied that baseball isn’t that way. 

She he went to her bookshelf and pulled out her scorebook - the one she keeps score in for special games. She opened up to a particular game and began explaining to me the methods and motives for each play. She shared how teams are more like families and it is in the best interest of the individual to be selfless for the team. 

I actually became teary-eyed as I looked at this scorebook and found myself quite moved. If only all the families I work with could learn the concept of what I was seeing in the numbers on the page in front of me. It touched my heart and I became a die-hard baseball fan. 

It’s important that you feel like your coach/consultant is a good fit. And by good fit, I mean someone who feels comfy to you. In order to progress you have to be able to trust them enough to open up your vulnerable spaces. So you need to feel respected and supported and understood. You need to feel cared about. It’s important that you feel like you won’t be judged so that you are free to explore all the areas of struggle without shame or guilt. 

Am I willing to do hard work?

Am I willing to be consistent?

Do I honestly desire to change?

Or am I simply seeking for the world around me to change without working for it?

If the above answers after real soul-searching are not yes, yes, yes, no, then you are wasting your money and time and the coach’s time. Until those answers are honestly there, what needs to happen for it to be a productive and positive experience will not happen.